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A Boy & A Girl!

There are certain things in life which are unexpected & definitely surprising too. If you’ve checked Thoughts section on my site, you’ll find one pretty similar article which I drafted almost 3 years back.Sometimes these surprises are pleasent but sometimes, very confusing & we start searching for the reason , why it must have happened? Ya ya I know I know thinking too much is not good for your health, atleast not good for your mental health, but thinking sometimes is just so spontaneous that you have no hold at all.


I’ll tell you a story about a boy & a girl. No no dont worry I’m not going to tell you damn old typical so called lovestory, in fact its a very practical day-to-day life simple story. How things get bad unexpectedly & how confusion takes over? Ok, let’s get back to the point, a boy & a girl who used to be friends as you must have guessed by this time now 🙂 (Really, were they? sorry guys but I’m not sure whether they were friends or not? …. Anyways lets not get into that now) But, all I can say is that they used to enjoy talking to each other atleast when it comes to pulling legs of others or commenting on how funny people behave in our day to day life, both used to laugh together & talk a lot about such funny creatures. In fact, girl had a habit of laughing so loudly that sometime even guy had to remind her about their presence in public places. so in short actually it was a good healthy relationship amongst them.

One day as usual they were discussing something funny & in that trans, girl passed some comment on this guy which somehow put this guy on the toes. He felt that why was that comment passed on him but still he did not react. He was upset but he could not figure out what was the logic behind that comment. Sorry guys but I’m not aware of the comment which girl passed on 🙁 so almost for next 2-3 days guy did not talk to girl & but finally after few days guy told girl about this stuff & thing he was upset about. Girl who was not sure how to explain that it was purely unintentional comment but still she told this fellow that, she did not mean to hurt him, also guy confessed that he wasn’t hurt but slightly upset with the unexpected comment. So issue was over by that time, was that really?

No, it was not. Next day onwards, they never talked with each other, like they used to, they never laughed together & interaction between them became absolutely formal.

Now, if I start thinking about the misunderstanding which actually led to complications, I’m confused. Ok lets consider if it was the girl who made a upsetting comment on the guy then she has already explained that it was purely unintentional so guy should not have mind it as that was a part of fun but then if it was a guy who mistakenly took this comment personally then he has also confessed that he did not take it seriously but its just that made him upset with the unexpected comment. Now, the question is who’s fault was that which actually spoilt a nice healthy friendship?

Ya I know guys by this time, you are also confused. You must be thinking, What message exactly I’m trying to convey when I’m narrating this piece of story. All I want to say is that sometimes some unexpected things can spoil some nice relations. so I will say “Dont think much”, definitely thinking moderately is accepted but make sure it doesn’t complicate the problem. Take the life the way it comes & live life every moment… 🙂

Are you desperate???

Guys read this… One of my friend forwarded me & I thought I should share this one with you…. 🙂 I know its a lengthy article but read it, its really worth.

Even I’m not sure who is the original author but its very interesting…

What not to do when you are desperate about having a girl friend !!

My target readers

If you are a guy, age >=22 and still single….welcome to the club. Read this very seriously.

If you are a guy, not single then reading this is not worth your time.

If you are a girl there is nothing new here, I know most of you are omniscient.

On a random day, at a random place you come across a random girl and you get an instant feeling that she is the “one” for you. In the next few mins of talk, the inevitable question comes up “Are you on Orkut?”…Now that’s the beginning. You take her email ID, flick her chat ID from Orkut and start loading her inbox with messages, forwards, funny mails, quotes etc etc… You are always online for her and the moment you comes online the question pops up on her window, “Hey hi, wass up?” You always go to places where there is a chance of seeing her. You try to run in to her and pretend that it was accidental. You wear nice dresses and try to look good on the days when there is a high probability of meeting her. After that you take her phone number and start calling her every day. For the first few days she picks up the phone, then slowly she starts giving the busy tone and the next stage is total avoidance. But, you always believe that she is interested in you or at least you don’t want to accept the truth. For some of you the big day comes when you express your feelings to her and you don’t even have to wait for her reply, it is generally, “I did not see you in that way, can we be just friends?” 🙂 Some don’t even reach that stage, they hide their feelings, but in either case one thing is common, the girl’s name ends up being the password for the next few months. 🙂

As soon as they realize that they have reached the “age”, guys start trying to impress girls. Some try to show-off that they are smart and some have this weird belief that girls consider stupid guys as cute. Intelligence to innocence, being introvert to extrovert, being classy to messy, strong to weak …anything and everything, every guy has own strategy. I don’t know who came up with this quote “Everything is fair in love and war”, he (not she) must probably have been one of them. I don’t know why guys fail to understand that girls are smart enough to understand all these and why would not they? Even before they realize that they are “girls”, guys start hitting on them, one after the other, day and night, not allowing them even to breathe properly.

After reading till here some of you might be in dilemma whether you are really desperate or not. It’s very easy to come to a conclusion. Take a paper and answer the following questions in Yes or No

1. Whenever you see a girl walking on the road ahead of you, Do you increase your walking speed, walk past her and then turn back to see her face?
2. Do you become very conscious about what you are talking, when you are around with girls?
3. Do you try to be cool or someone else in order to impress girls?
4. Do you think staying clam or moody when in a group makes the girl think about you?
5. You ask a girl to join you for lunch or coffee; do you think a YES from other side is an indication that she is interested in you?
6. Do you keep staring at girls?
7. Are you ready to date a girl even if she is around with someone else as well?
8. Is “Girls” the main topic of all your discussions with your friends?

If you find even a single “YES” in the paper then YOU ARE DESPERATE. Be a man, accept it. 🙂

Now the real question “What not to do when you are desperate about having a girl friend?”

Did you actually believe that I would come up with some solution or tips? Had I known it, would I be still single? It was just a trick to make you guys read this one. But, I have one tip though, first and foremost STOP being desperate. I know that it is difficult. At least try not to show that you are desperate. The rule is simple, “No one in this world cares for a thing that is easily gettable” and FYI girls are never worried about finding a guy and why do they have to? Did you ever come across a girl who never had a BF or never been proposed by a guy? If yes, then that’s a miracle, you met a rare species or an extinct one in this world.

If you got the tip that you wanted and don’t want to read any further it’s fine. But, I would recommend reading further. Trust me, keep reading.

We know that we are the ones who make the girls realize that they are important, treat them as if they are precious, tell them that they are beautiful and show that they are in demand. We buy them gifts, spend all the money we have, do their work, roam around with them all the time, carry their stuff and in the end what do we get in return? a few thanks and an offer to be a good friend. Do we need all this? If 1/1000 th of the time wasted on a girl is spent on a guy you will find a friend for a lifetime. Just play some game together or watch a movie, give him a cigarette or buy him a drink and that is it. Realize that spending a night with your friends drinking till everyone pukes, having a hangover throughout the next day is more fun than spending the same night with your girl in a pub buying her drinks, talking crap, listening crap, making some crap moves….. What ever.

I know that at some point of time in your life you might have realized all this. But, there is a need to educate the rest and also pass on the message to the future generations. I dream of a day when guys are in demand and girls start worrying about finding a guy. I hope the day comes soon.

If you are still desperate, you need a second read.

P.S.: To the girls: If you think that some guy is crazy about you and trying hard to impress you, please tell him immediately if you are not interested.

“Great job Man!!! I’m still searching who actually wrote this article but I guess really worth reading, so guys did you understand where actually problem is 🙂 anyways I’m not saying stop all fun but in short have a nice time even if you are with your male/female friends, in either case… 🙂 No but I dont mean Dostana 😉 “

Her Diary Vs. His Diary!!!


Day night, I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a cafe to have some coffee. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment. Conversation wasn’t flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk, he agreed but he kept quiet and absent. I asked him what was wrong – he said, “Nothing.” I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry. On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving. I can’t explain his behavior; I don’t know why he didn’t say, “I love u,too.” When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there and watched TV; he seemed distant and absent.Finally I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed. I decided that I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep.I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.


Today India lost the cricket match against Bangladesh. DAMN IT!!! 🙂
Now that’s called Simplicity of Men Vs Complexity of Women !!! 😉

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