Love Marriage Vs Arranged Marriage

I know, this is one of the most popular topic on the Internet and off the internet as well. People literally jump into conversation to put forward their views. (Or it would be more appropriate to call it as a fight) :-) Sometimes directly or indirectly defending their own sides. At least, I can share my views here without any interruption until I finish… :-)

But before I start I’m sure you must be wondering – “why the hell Rahul is writing about marriages especially when he has no experience of a marriage at all?”

Come on guys, tell me honestly, can I even dare to say anything against marriage, after getting married? – No; So this is the time.. ;-)

 

Let’s start with comparing the differences rather than comparing the benefits. As far as my understanding is concerned, I believe the most significant difference would be the premarital time. In any love marriage, you get more time before marriage and with no strings attached so probably  you feel you are not obligated. You have a free will to understand your partner & move on if things don’t work out. However, in most of the love marriages people don’t even start with the  objective of getting married ; they become good friends & they find each other so compatible that they actually end up marrying each other.

Now consider the arranged marriage – obviously, the objective is clearly defined here even before you meet each other personally. And then you start matching those missing blocks to find the right match. The best part is; your family knows what you are doing so you don’t have to wait to talk on the phone untill everybody sleeps in the night :-) (Now, you may count that as a benefit, short term though…) And you can proudly announce your dating schedule in front of your whole family with no counter-questions what-so-ever.

Anyways, as I mentioned above, does that extra premarital time really make any difference? I mean I’ve friends falling into both these categories with mixed opinions, Read few of these comments –

- “In love marriage, you know your partner well before so there is nothing left to explore after marriage”

– “In arranged marriages, you get to see true colors of your partner only after marriage (really? Come on guys, you can’t be so pessimistic, you can say at least some good things about marriage)”

and so on & on & on…

Ok but to conclude in short, here is my 2 cents – It’s probably not about the way you get married, it’s about the mutual understanding and the patience (yes the patience to get along with those mood swings, the patience you need to cope up with the cricket match until it ends or the patience you need to choose blue curtains for your bedroom :-) )

Basically, it is just the compatibility & not the way of getting married. :-)

P.S. Please note, this article was written in order to highlight the differences between various types of Indian marriages & its completely for fun with no intention to provide any counselling advise what-so-ever. So please consider your partner selection decisions at your own risk.  :-)

P.P.S. And yes, one more thing, stop predicting my status based on the article above, I bet you going to get it wrong, so wait till I reveal it ;-)

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Will you be my valentine?

So guys all set for celebrations? I’m pretty sure,very few people will end up reading this article today & I won’t be surprised if You are super-busy today ;-) Anyways that’s good. So I will start this post on the note of wishing all of you & your respective partners a very Happy Valentine’s Day!

By the way, do you know, why do we celebrate this day? 90% of people will plainly answer it as in the memories of St. Valentine & his martyrdom but do you know what is the actual story? How many of you know that St. Valentine was believed to be secretly married to many young lovers?

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Aha,that’s interesting!!! See now I can sense some raised eyebrows… Most of the Indians will find it pretty identical to what happened in Mahabharata, when Lord Krishna married 16000 DASIs because of the edict. So in both the cases marriage was taken principally as an institution & a selfless act. And to me, that is the real message of the Valentine’s day.

Anyways that was the core concept which is the history now but lets see what is happening today. Read the script below :

There was this young guy who walked into a gift shop (Guy was single so there is no question of buying a gift :-)) but he just thought let see what all gifts are available so that he could prepare himself to gift something someday to his wife… As soon as he entered, an attendant greeted him politely with pretty clear intentions :-p, So here is what happened –

Shopkeeper – Good Evening Sir! How may I help you?
Guy - Show me some gifts so that I can choose something unique.
Shopkeeper – Sure Sir! Valentine gift, right?
Guy - (*remained silent*)
Shopkeeper – So how is your girlfriend?
Guy - She is fine! (WTF! what kind of question was that? Guy was bit furious, regretted for answering this)
Shopkeeper – *Grin!* No sir, I mean what type of person she is? Does she like gadgets, perfumes or anything specific?
    (Now, this is called as embarrassment.)
Guy - (*Embarrassed*) Show me whatever you have! I will choose myself.

I know guys, you would be more interested to know what happened later but that is out of context for this article so I won’t include it here. So, the point to note here is that, people are now more materialistic than the actual feeling behind celebrating this day. Tell me, how many of you actually take a day off to spend some quality time with your spouse? In some countries, it is an official holiday. I’m not against gifting your spouse/loved ones but more emphasis should be on spending good time with him/ her. So to conclude it in simple words –

Girls - Take some time & make him feel special, he really cares for you although you don’t realise it most of the time. He tries his best to keep you happy so certainly he deserves a nice treatment today. And when I say nice treatment, it is purely subjective & depends on his perception :-) Basically make him feel happy & lucky to have you in his life.

Guys - Its fairly simple for you, Buy her an expensive gift as much as your budget allows (Sorry but no excuses here), take her out for a dinner & make her feel special & unique. I would like to emphasize the word ‘unique’. And see how it works for you. The time you spend with her is the key. Be genuinely with her & listen to her :-) In fact I would say, you don’t need to wait for Valentine’s day to express your feelings. Just 30 seconds, are enough, I mean a genuine hug will convey your feelings to her & believe me she will understand it.

So finally once again, wish you all a very happy valentine’s day! Have a great time…

P.S. Stop visualizing me as the guy in the shop above. All the characters in the script are fictitious & any close resemblance to the real life is just a coincidence, you know that, right? ;-)

P.P.S. Scroll slightly up & read the conclusion in the last few lines again. Because I truly mean it.

Be there, I will call you…

Sunday, late evening, 8’o clock :

My phone was ringing… I picked up the call… That was my friend caling me….

“Hey Rahul,I’m going downstairs so be there somewhere around your cellphone, I will call you, ok?”

“Ah! But, I’m also going somewhere out so I’ll be driving that time…”

“Ok then be on handsfree na? I need some help”

“Alright!”

LittleGirlOnPhone

Monday, afternoon, 1’o clock, more than 16 hours later :

I was sitting in the office & so far she has not called me, I mean just imagine if I would have really equipped myself with handsfree all the way since she has told me, it would have looked so stupid. I mean how can I sleep whole night with my handsfree on & get ready for the office?

So moral of the story is “When a girl calls you & ask you to follow something suddenly & unexpectedly, don’t really follow them, take them seriously only when they are crying. I mean not all the time, but most of the time, they say exactly opposite of whatever they actually have on their mind.”

May be in this case she wanted to say “Rahul, don’t wait for my call, I’ll be busy till tomorrow” ;-)

I’m very sure by the time I finish writing this, she will call me & she will be all cool, completely forgotten that she had kept me waiting for more than 16 hours and guess what? Dare I mention it , I’ll be killed :-)

Ok jokes apart, I don’t really mean to offend girls here, it’s just that; proabably that’s how God created them. Trust me, if a guy does the same to a girl, he will not be forgiven for any damn excuse, even if he says, “I just survived a car accident & was in the trauma” :-)

P.S. See as I said above, she is on call with me right now & so far she has not at all mentioned anything about yesterday? ;-)

I love you Mom-Dad!!!

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

Father asked his Son, “What’s this?”

Son replied “It’s a crow”.

After a few minutes, Father asked his Son the 2nd time, “What’s this?” The Son said “Dad, I’ve jst now told you “It’s a crow”. After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, What is this?” At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son’s tone when he said 2 his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow”. A little after, the Father again asked his Son 4th time, “What is this?” This time the Son shouted at his Father, “Why do u keep asking me the same question again & again, although I’ve told u so many times ‘IT IS A CROW'; are u not able 2 understand this?”

A little later the Father went 2 his room & came back with an old tattered diary which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son 2 read tht page.When d son read it, the following words were written in the diary :

Today my little son aged 3 was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was & I replied 2 him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again & again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child.

While the little child asked him 23 times “What is this?”, the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times & when today Father asked his Son the same question just four times, the Son felt irritated & annoyed. So, If ur parents attain old age do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak 2 them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble & kind to them. Be considerate to your parents.

From today say this aloud, “I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child.(I mean it guys!!!) They hav always showered their selfless love on me. They crossed all mountains & valleys without seeing the storm & heat to make me a person presentable in the society today”.

Say a prayer to god, “I will serve my old parents in the best way. I will say all good & kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.”

Guys, in my personal opinion, I believe it does not matter how successful person I would be, I’m very much aware that Whatever I’m today, that’s absolutely because of my Father & my Mother!!! I love you Mom-Dad!!!

Here I am sitting in my office @ night…

Guys, if you are software engineer, read this, somebody wrote the truth in few words…Let me know your comments after reading this :-)

Here I am sitting in my office @ night…

Thinking hard about life
How it changed from a maverick collage life to strict professional life…

How tiny pocket money changed to huge monthly paychecks
but then why it gives lesss happiness…

How a few local denim jeans changed to new branded wardrobe
but then why there are less people to use them…

How a single plate of samosa changed to a full Pizza or burger
But then why there is less hunger…

Here i am sitting in my office @ night…
Thinking hard about life
How it changed…

How a bike always in reserve changed to bike always on
but then why there are less places to go on…

How a small coffee shop changed to cafe coffee day…
but then why its feels like shop is far away…

How a limited prepaid card changed to postpaid package
but then why there are less calls & more messages…

Here i am sitting in my office @ night…
Thinking hard about life
How it changed…

How a general class journey changed to Flight journey
But then why there are less vacations for enjoyment…

How a old assembled desktop changed to new branded laptop
but then why there is less time to put it on…

How a small bunch of friends changed to office mate
But then why we always feel lonely n miss those college frnz…

Here i am sitting in my office @ night…
Thinking hard about life
How it changed… How it changed…!!!

8 Most stupid questions.

1. At the movies: When you meet acquaintances/ friends…
Stupid Question:- Hey, what are you doing here?
Answer:-Dont u know, I sell tickets in black over here…

2. In the bus: A heavy lady wearing pointed high-heeled shoes steps on your feet…
Stupid Question:-Sorry, did that hurt?
Answer:-No, not at all, I’m on local anesthesia.. …why don’t you
try again.

3. At a funeral: One of the teary-eyed people ask…
Stupid Question:-Why, why him, of all people.
Answer:-Why? Would it rather have been you?

4. At a restaurant: When you ask the waiter
Stupid Question:-Is ! the “Paneer butter Masala” dish good??
Answer:-No, its terrible and made of adulterated cement. We occassionaly also spit in it.

5. At a family get-together: When some distant aunt meets you after years…
Stupid Question:- Munna, Chickoo, you’ve become so big.
Answer:-Well you haven’t particularly shrunk yourself

6. When a friend announces her wedding, and you ask…
Stupid Question:- Is the guy you’re marrying good?
Answer:- No,he’s a miserable wife-beating , insensitive lout…it’s
just the money.

7. When you get woken up at midnight by a phone call…
Stupid Question:- Sorry. were you sleeping?
Answer:- No. I was doing research on whether the Zulu tribes in Africa marry or not.You thought I was sleeping…. you dumb witted moron.

8. When you see a friend/colleague with evidently shorter hair…
Stupid Question:- Hey have you had a haircut?
Answer:- No, its autumn and I’m shedding…

You tell me…

A college student needed a small two-hour course to fill his schedule and the only one available was wildlife Zoology. So he joined in and after one week of study, a test was held. The professor passed out a sheet of small paper where in each square was a carefully drawn picture of a bird’s legs. No bodies, no feet, just legs.

The test asked each student to identify the birds from their legs. Our student sat and stared at the test getting angrier every minute. Finally he stomped up to the front of the classroom and threw the test on the teacher’s desk. “This is the worst test I have ever written.”

The teacher looked up and said: “Young man, you have not filled in anything and you definitely have failed the test. Tell me, what’s your name?”

The student pulled up his trousers to the knee showing his legs and said, “You tell me…” :-)