Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus!

Huh!!! Very familiar & popular topic. This is a well known fact that boys and girls are surely different in all the aspects. Even if it is the simplest issue of shopping or most critical issue of solving a problem is concerned, both have their own ways of approaching the problem. Usually we find that men try to solve a problem in more logical way while women tend to solve problems in more or less emotional way. In other words, men use brain in very straightforward result oriented approach while girls use their hearts to solve a problem & simultaneously build or maintain a very nice relationship.

No, hold on here I don’t mean girls use no brains to solve problems but I mean they more likely to be more emotional than being logical. So this one is the most basic important difference in Men & women, probably causing lots of more differences when both of them interacting with each other. Ok now let me first tell you guys that I’ll try to share my experiences or my views on how to maintain better relation but I’ve no intention to target or criticize any of them, neither girls nor boys. As being a guy, I can tell you better, how guys can communicate nicely with girls.

For example: If you talk to a woman in her language on her level on her favourite topics, do I need to tell you explicitly that you will get better results than you would if you just doing your own thing. :-) But I don’t mean that all that you should keep on discussing her favourite topics. No, not at all. But as you know women are more inclined to talk things than man would. Women prefer to resolve conflicts, discussing various aspects of situation. They just want to recollect the topic over & over until it has been completely resolved. While men tend to stay away from the discussion & move on quickly since they think discussing again on the same topic will create more problems but this can in fact cause problems between them because Men shuts down & women feels neglected.
The smart man will figure out this problem, will listen to the woman in his life. But he should not only listen, he should respond, comment, ask questions & somehow keep the conversation going until she thinks its resolved now. Now here is most critical part.

I know guys you must be thinking “boss, you expect us to listen girls all these things” Yes, I know sometime you loose your patience & that is harmful which could make the situation worst. That is why I said, don’t just listen, respond, comment & if you have some valid arguments put them in a very precise manner. This will not only satisfy her need to communicate but it will also get the issues open. This could work to your advantage also, particularly if you are in a relationship that you really care about.

So as I said men & women are different for sure but if you are watchful & pay attention to the signals she is passing, you can surely learn how to communicate with them effectively. Just try to recognise them, look them in the eye & pay attention to little clues that she will give. Talk to her & let her know that you are paying her attention. When you are at the same level of communication she is already, you will surely have her attention. And just make a note of one thing, in such situations don’t try to make fun out of her, this will create so many problems again. :-)

At least these are some things which I have noticed so far in my life & probably because of that I have quite a few very nice female friends as well. :-)

Few things about girls

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Ok so guys here are certain things which I’ve noticed so far about girls. Probably you can apply these things to guys also but I found them more suitable on girls, may be because I don’t notice/watch guys in more or less in that sense :-)

So coming back to the point. First let me clarify that I’m going to put only some aspects about girls which are concerned to their external appearances, external beauty & not about their nature/behaviour. Yes I believe internal beauty, nature, behaviour of a person are also significant properties but may be I’ll write that in my other article as I’ve been doing in my previous articles up to certain extent. So this article is totally about the girl’s external beauty & presentation. Also, in no ways I’ve any intention to target any specific girl. In fact, I’ve been personally respecting girls & I will. So girls you can also read this with open mind.

Ok so as long as I’ve understood girls, I can broadly classified them in 4 categories.

Good Looking Presentation
Smart Girls Yes Excellent
Average Girls Yes Bad
Ordinary Girls No At least, try to present nicely
Very Ordinary Girls No Bad

 

There are 4 types of girls viz. Smart, Average, Ordinary & very ordinary. Let’s take a look at all of them one by one.

Smart Girls: These are the girls who are definitely good looking & additionally they are aware of it & so they usually present themselves very nicely, in fact excellently. Here, I mean the way they dress, their body language, appearance in public places, their confidence levels. All in all everything up to the mark so for sure these girls rock but please do not misinterpret these girls with over smart girls, as these are very much down to earth. Probably you must be thinking that I’m talking about dream girl but seriously these type of girls do exist.

Average girls: Unfortunately, these girls aren’t aware of the fact that they are really good looking. These girls probably don’t know how much potential they have? Sometimes they dress badly or somehow they can’t put themselves decently, may be because they are just too casual or negligent about their appearance. But seriously believe me they just need a makeover & they will be wonderful.

Ordinary girls: Actually these girls are not so good looking but they continuously put so much efforts to present themselves decently & even sometime they are successful too. But sometime they turn out to be over smart.

Very Ordinary girls: I feel very sorry for these girls. These girls are unfortunately average looking and one step further they are just too casual to present themselves decently. Less confident ,always confused & not at all concerned about the presentation.

So guys & girls what do you think? Your comments always welcomed…

I recommend reading this: I met my best friend’s parents

I love you Mom-Dad!!!

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

Father asked his Son, “What’s this?”

Son replied “It’s a crow”.

After a few minutes, Father asked his Son the 2nd time, “What’s this?” The Son said “Dad, I’ve jst now told you “It’s a crow”. After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, What is this?” At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son’s tone when he said 2 his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow”. A little after, the Father again asked his Son 4th time, “What is this?” This time the Son shouted at his Father, “Why do u keep asking me the same question again & again, although I’ve told u so many times ‘IT IS A CROW'; are u not able 2 understand this?”

A little later the Father went 2 his room & came back with an old tattered diary which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son 2 read tht page.When d son read it, the following words were written in the diary :

Today my little son aged 3 was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was & I replied 2 him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again & again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child.

While the little child asked him 23 times “What is this?”, the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times & when today Father asked his Son the same question just four times, the Son felt irritated & annoyed. So, If ur parents attain old age do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak 2 them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble & kind to them. Be considerate to your parents.

From today say this aloud, “I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child.(I mean it guys!!!) They hav always showered their selfless love on me. They crossed all mountains & valleys without seeing the storm & heat to make me a person presentable in the society today”.

Say a prayer to god, “I will serve my old parents in the best way. I will say all good & kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.”

Guys, in my personal opinion, I believe it does not matter how successful person I would be, I’m very much aware that Whatever I’m today, that’s absolutely because of my Father & my Mother!!! I love you Mom-Dad!!!

Delhi Agra trip

17022009466Last month I went to Delhi, probably February is the best time to meet this place as the weather is not so hot not so cold. But for me the reason was different. Actually, this year we decided to celebrate my Dad’s birthday in Delhi. So with my whole family I went there. I landed early morning in Delhi. It was a nice bright morning with slightly colder than Mumbai. we visited quite a few places in Delhi, most of them are old monuments including Qutub Minar,Lotus temple & also we saw India gate, Parliment,President’s house. Though it wasn’t my first time to visit these places, I really enjoyed this time ; especially Qutub Minarvisit. Honestly telling you though I’ve been to this place earlier as well, I don’t know why but this time I had fun & captured several photos. Also I found Birla temple a very calm & nice place to visit. Actually I went to this temple for the first time.

On the very next day I went to Agra. Wow!!! Practically this was my third attempt to see Taj Mahal as last 2 attempts, I could not see Taj. But finally this time I could make it. Whole day I spent there. Apart from Taj, I managed to visit 16022009429Agra fort which is hardly at walking distance. Frankly speaking this Fort is being overlooked as most of the tourists come here to see Taj. Obviously Taj is very nice place but I feel Agra fort is a very nice old days building worth seeing.
Take my word, go visit this place you are surely going to like this and fortunately its properly maintained by Indian government.

Anyways, so in short I really had nice time in this trip with my Mom-Dad!!! :-)

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Why do we shout?

A saint asked his disciples, ‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’

‘But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?’ asked the saint. ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint. Finally he explained, ‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’

Then the saint asked, ‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each
other.’

MORAL : When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.

I hope guys all of you will agree on this. This was sent to me by a friend today & I totally agree on this.

Happy Holi!!!

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Wish you all a very very Happy & colourful Holi!!! Actually I don’t play holi these days but I still remember those wonderful childhood days when my dad used to bring all those colours & varios “pichkaris”. We all friends used gather so early in the morning & play till late afternoon. But now being so professional can’t help :-( Ha but I like to see all children playing holi. In fact yesterday, while I was returning back from office, I saw a troop of children below my apartment equipped with colours & baloons. As they all were approaching me, I could hear there voice, they were whispering amongst them “Hey isko bhi lena hai kya?” (Hey should we target him also?) Huh!!! Oh my God! I was scared, I did not want to spoil my properly pressed shirt & formals. But I did not give any reaction on my face. I kept walking calmly as if nothing is going around me. As I was just passing by, I heard another voice “Aey!!! nahi nahi isko nahi” (No no not him) I was relived. :-)

Anyways guys so all of you & your families a very Happy & safe HOLI!!! Enjoy!!!

I met my best friend’s parents.

It was one of most memorable incident. So guys let me share with you something nice happened to me. This was the first time ever I was supposed to meet one of my female friend’s parents. First of all let me tell you about my friend. She is the CLOSEST female friend of mine. She is my best friend. We have been together almost for more than 6 years. On this nice Sunday evening I went her home. When I went there her Dad has gone somewhere out & was supposed to come later. So I met her Mom first. My friend has always been describing me that her Mom scolds her a lot but after meeting her I don’t believe this. Her Mom is very very sweet & she was so happy to me that I was stunned. I have never meet aunty before but she was talking to me very nicely, she offered me juice & lot more to come. Then she asked me some typical set of questions, but at all those times she was not at all sounding rude, very calm & with smiling face. Guys I honestly tell you that I was very tensed as I was getting slightly nervous to meet her Dad. Anyways after some time he came. As soon as he entered, he gave me an angry look & shook hand with me introducing with his first name in very confident firm voice. Huhhh!! I was really scared…but a moment a later he smiled. Ahhh!!! I was relieved. I must say that her Dad has great sense of humour. Probably, he just did that to scare me. Then, he was interacting with me very nicely & there was lot of professional as well as family talk but all in all it was a healthy discussion going on. Uncle was cracking some real time, crispy jokes which was making me feel relaxed at a moment.

All in all so far everything went well. In all this meantime, aunty has given me enough of things to eat & huh!!! She was continuously asking me “Why are you not eating? Why are you so slow?” :-) Actually saying, I was full already but I was just following my friend’s instructions as she has told me that her Mom doesn’t like if somebody leaves anything on the plate. :-( And later on it was the cold treat for me with 2 flavours of ice creams & guess what??? It was prepared by auntyji herself at home. I tell you guys, nobody can say that it wasn’t from a shop. It was that delicious.

And here comes the final part of the meeting which touched me & I’m never going to forget it in my whole life, that’s for sure. As soon as I said “Ok uncle, I’ll leave now” Uncle went inside & brought 2 gift packets in his hand. I was very surprised. Seriously I was not expecting this. One gift was given by himself & other one by auntyji. I was really touched. Probably you might feel what so special in this but tell me if just a guy who is friend of their daughter, does he really deserve such a nice & wonderful treatment? One step further after this all family members came out of house to send me off. Now, tell me isn’t it touching that a simple guy like me given such a nice treatment by those 2 very nice people? If they wanted they could have just give me an ordinary treatment & honestly I was not expecting beyond that. But I’m very happy as whatever happened on this nice Sunday was much beyond my expectation.

Thank you so much Uncle-Aunty for inviting me, giving me such a nice treat & making me feel very nice about myself!!! :-)

“Hats off” to Sachin…

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I don’t think I need to explain the title of the post to those who have seen today’s India vs. NZ match. It was totally his day. Those who follow one of the most famous punchline “Cricket is our religion & Sachin is our God”, yesterday was the festival… Boundaries were showering all around the ground. With this ton Sachin filled up the gap of missing century in NewZealand. One more feather added to his cap. :-) Hats off man!!! Hats off!!! In fact, he could have completed the double hundred if he could have stayed there till 50th over but due to the injury, he had to leave the field. That was very unfortunate. I personally wanted him to make this record of being the first one to do the miracle of double hundred in one day cricket. I know I’m expecting too much from him but honestly I’ve been one of the biggest fan of Sachin & so is the normal human tendency… :-) I hope he gets well soon from his abdomen injury & continues his glorious path….

P.S. Since I was out on this sunday, I missed the telecast of this match :-( but I caught the glimpse of what actually happened in highlights :-)

Here I am sitting in my office @ night…

Guys, if you are software engineer, read this, somebody wrote the truth in few words…Let me know your comments after reading this :-)

Here I am sitting in my office @ night…

Thinking hard about life
How it changed from a maverick collage life to strict professional life…

How tiny pocket money changed to huge monthly paychecks
but then why it gives lesss happiness…

How a few local denim jeans changed to new branded wardrobe
but then why there are less people to use them…

How a single plate of samosa changed to a full Pizza or burger
But then why there is less hunger…

Here i am sitting in my office @ night…
Thinking hard about life
How it changed…

How a bike always in reserve changed to bike always on
but then why there are less places to go on…

How a small coffee shop changed to cafe coffee day…
but then why its feels like shop is far away…

How a limited prepaid card changed to postpaid package
but then why there are less calls & more messages…

Here i am sitting in my office @ night…
Thinking hard about life
How it changed…

How a general class journey changed to Flight journey
But then why there are less vacations for enjoyment…

How a old assembled desktop changed to new branded laptop
but then why there is less time to put it on…

How a small bunch of friends changed to office mate
But then why we always feel lonely n miss those college frnz…

Here i am sitting in my office @ night…
Thinking hard about life
How it changed… How it changed…!!!