Huh!!! Very familiar & popular topic. This is a well known fact that boys and girls are surely different in all the aspects. Even if it is the simplest issue of shopping or most critical issue of solving a problem is concerned, both have their own ways of approaching the problem. Usually we find that men try to solve a problem in more logical way while women tend to solve problems in more or less emotional way. In other words, men use brain in very straightforward result oriented approach while girls use their hearts to solve a problem & simultaneously build or maintain a very nice relationship.
No, hold on here I don’t mean girls use no brains to solve problems but I mean they more likely to be more emotional than being logical. So this one is the most basic important difference in Men & women, probably causing lots of more differences when both of them interacting with each other. Ok now let me first tell you guys that I’ll try to share my experiences or my views on how to maintain better relation but I’ve no intention to target or criticize any of them, neither girls nor boys. As being a guy, I can tell you better, how guys can communicate nicely with girls.
For example: If you talk to a woman in her language on her level on her favourite topics, do I need to tell you explicitly that you will get better results than you would if you just doing your own thing. But I don’t mean that all that you should keep on discussing her favourite topics. No, not at all. But as you know women are more inclined to talk things than man would. Women prefer to resolve conflicts, discussing various aspects of situation. They just want to recollect the topic over & over until it has been completely resolved. While men tend to stay away from the discussion & move on quickly since they think discussing again on the same topic will create more problems but this can in fact cause problems between them because Men shuts down & women feels neglected.
The smart man will figure out this problem, will listen to the woman in his life. But he should not only listen, he should respond, comment, ask questions & somehow keep the conversation going until she thinks its resolved now. Now here is most critical part.
I know guys you must be thinking “boss, you expect us to listen girls all these things” Yes, I know sometime you loose your patience & that is harmful which could make the situation worst. That is why I said, don’t just listen, respond, comment & if you have some valid arguments put them in a very precise manner. This will not only satisfy her need to communicate but it will also get the issues open. This could work to your advantage also, particularly if you are in a relationship that you really care about.
So as I said men & women are different for sure but if you are watchful & pay attention to the signals she is passing, you can surely learn how to communicate with them effectively. Just try to recognise them, look them in the eye & pay attention to little clues that she will give. Talk to her & let her know that you are paying her attention. When you are at the same level of communication she is already, you will surely have her attention. And just make a note of one thing, in such situations don’t try to make fun out of her, this will create so many problems again.
At least these are some things which I have noticed so far in my life & probably because of that I have quite a few very nice female friends as well.