Love Marriage Vs Arranged Marriage

I know, this is one of the most popular topic on the Internet and off the internet as well. People literally jump into conversation to put forward their views. (Or it would be more appropriate to call it as a fight) :-) Sometimes directly or indirectly defending their own sides. At least, I can share my views here without any interruption until I finish… :-)

But before I start I’m sure you must be wondering – “why the hell Rahul is writing about marriages especially when he has no experience of a marriage at all?”

Come on guys, tell me honestly, can I even dare to say anything against marriage, after getting married? – No; So this is the time.. ;-)

 

Let’s start with comparing the differences rather than comparing the benefits. As far as my understanding is concerned, I believe the most significant difference would be the premarital time. In any love marriage, you get more time before marriage and with no strings attached so probably  you feel you are not obligated. You have a free will to understand your partner & move on if things don’t work out. However, in most of the love marriages people don’t even start with the  objective of getting married ; they become good friends & they find each other so compatible that they actually end up marrying each other.

Now consider the arranged marriage – obviously, the objective is clearly defined here even before you meet each other personally. And then you start matching those missing blocks to find the right match. The best part is; your family knows what you are doing so you don’t have to wait to talk on the phone untill everybody sleeps in the night :-) (Now, you may count that as a benefit, short term though…) And you can proudly announce your dating schedule in front of your whole family with no counter-questions what-so-ever.

Anyways, as I mentioned above, does that extra premarital time really make any difference? I mean I’ve friends falling into both these categories with mixed opinions, Read few of these comments –

- “In love marriage, you know your partner well before so there is nothing left to explore after marriage”

– “In arranged marriages, you get to see true colors of your partner only after marriage (really? Come on guys, you can’t be so pessimistic, you can say at least some good things about marriage)”

and so on & on & on…

Ok but to conclude in short, here is my 2 cents – It’s probably not about the way you get married, it’s about the mutual understanding and the patience (yes the patience to get along with those mood swings, the patience you need to cope up with the cricket match until it ends or the patience you need to choose blue curtains for your bedroom :-) )

Basically, it is just the compatibility & not the way of getting married. :-)

P.S. Please note, this article was written in order to highlight the differences between various types of Indian marriages & its completely for fun with no intention to provide any counselling advise what-so-ever. So please consider your partner selection decisions at your own risk.  :-)

P.P.S. And yes, one more thing, stop predicting my status based on the article above, I bet you going to get it wrong, so wait till I reveal it ;-)

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Stressful Life, Why?

It was an extremely cold morning & I was out for morning walk with Dad. Since I was back home on leave for 5 days, it was our usual routine to get up early, go for morning walk & have a cup of tea from the beach-side hotel. Weather was awesomely pleasant. While we were walking, I noticed a cute little kid, with long hair tied up as a pony tail walking with his Dad holding Dad’s finger. He must be around 3-4 years old, trying to walk little faster to match up with his Dad’s speed. His Dad was visibly a poor man, I guess a building construction labour. Kid was seemingly happy & laughing loudly enough that I could hear him on the other side of the road, probably because his Dad was telling him some funny story. I was wondering what that small kid was trying to tell his father :-)

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Another incident  reported by one of my friend. He was in his hometown for Diwali. As you know in India, Diwali is the season for shopping, my friend was also out for shopping.He saw a guy returning back home, riding on his bicycle. And guess what? His entire family, his son, wife & himself riding on the same bicycle. Enjoying their ride, they must have finished their Diwali shopping & returning back home.

Now from both these incidents I noticed that these people definitely do not have lavishing lifestyles but still they were visibly happy & contained with their lives. On the other hand I meet so many people around me; they actually do not have any reason to be tensed or depressed. They have a secure job, earning enough money to afford their lavishing lifestyle. I mean, don’t take me wrong, I’m not only considering monetary aspects but these people are really depressed for nothing. Think about those people who can’t even afford meals for 2 times a day but still they manage to smile. Even worse, I’ve noticed a pathetic & irritating trend of running behind money endlessly. It is so damn irritating when people keep discussing about money all the time. I’m not saying they are wrong, I understand financial stability is important factor but people are getting obsessed with it. Or may be its just my personal experience that I’m meeting up these sort of people quite frequently… Even I confess, sometimes I feel stressed but now over the period of time, I learnt certain ways to cheer up myself & get back to life.

Then I wonder, why these people so stressed all the time? Do you think perception is the problem? or negative mind-set is the root cause here???

50 Secrets Girls Have To Know About Guys

Girls, have you ever thought, that even boys can have secrets?”

Yes, they do have secrets… Though, guys are not as complicated as girls; they do have few things which I’m sure very few people might have noticed. To be very honest; when this came to my mind I started searching for some reference data & here is the list of final 50 secrets which I could collect from those various resources. Some of those are experienced by me so adding up with my special comments :-)

1. Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
–If you are a female & have ever met me then I must have already mentioned this at least once.

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2. Guys hate flirts.
–Especially the guy next door flirting with my girl.

 

3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.
–I doubt… At least not applicable to me.

 

4. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.
–I know you are smiling, I completely agree.

 

5. “Are you doing something?” or “Have you eaten already?” are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.
–OMG! This is the first thing, I always ask when someone picks up my call.

 

6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.
–Hope you girls believe it.

 

7. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.
–Just to be more precise, Probably he will mention those things only when you are together but he will never ever mention it when you are in public. He strongly feels, you are the best.

 

8. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.
–Especially, of the girl, they love to be with.

 

9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.
–Yeah! they can… ;-)

 

10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
–Absolutely right! We don’t care about your eX, y or z

 

11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.
–You know why I smiled.

 

12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t.
–That’s how they are biologically designed, can’t do much, just regret later :-)

 

13. Guys cry!!!
–And when they do, they are really upset, support them.

 

14. Don’t provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.
–Not necessarily always.

 

15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.
–I strongly disagree because at least I can…

 

16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
–Yes they do have feelings…

 

17. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.
–But first & foremost you should realise that you did.

 

18. Giving a guy a hanging message like “You know what?!..uh…never mind!” would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.
–Ahhh!!! You got it right!

 

19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.
–It means a lot to them.

 

20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.
–May be butterflies in the stomach :-P

 

21. When a guy makes a prolonged “umm” or makes any excuses when you’re asking him to do you a favour, he’s actually saying that he doesn’t like you and he can’t lay down the card for you.
–This is true… so back off.. (Sorry for being blunt…but that’s the fact)

 

22. When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow.”
–And he comes with new strategy next day :-)

 

23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
–It would be so easy for him to take actions accordingly.

 

24. Guys hate gays!
–I do

 

25. Guys love their moms.
–Hmmm! I miss my Mom! (Married girls- please comment, although I know what’s on your mind :-) )

 

26. A guy would sacrifice his bills for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
–Or a pair of sandals/chocolates…

 

27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.
–Ahhhh! This is bit tricky but all true!

 

28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
–so moral here is, do listen to me. ;-)

 

29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
–Though he might not have expressed it ever before or earlier.

 

30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
–I’m not sure so no comments!

 

31. Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.
–And contrary to that , the girl they are in madly love with, is their strength.

 

32. Guys are very open about themselves.
–Oh! Yeah! They need to be controlled!

 

33. It’s good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait that long.
–Or else he will start exploring other opportunities.

 

34. No guy is bad when he is courting
–Not really… I disagree.

 

35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
–And hairstyle too

 

36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.
–So don’t even doubt him if he compliments you, just accept it, it will make your day wonderful!

 

37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.
–I cannot comment, as I’ve never experienced this.

 

38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.
–This is simply true vice-versa. Human mind!

 

39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
–Never take his teasing as a criticism, if he loves you, he never mean to criticise you. He wants the best out of you. Just smile, even if he says “You have put on some weight than that of our previous date” :-)

 

40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.
–May be!

 

41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.
–Not sure if at all.

 

42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.
–So I never go for it. Better stick to roses.

 

43. Guys virtually brag about anything.
–No idea.

 

44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.
–Really? I don’t agree. Guys can… seriously! I mean I can but nobody tells me the secret. :-p

 

45. Guys think too much.
–No doubt… they do…

 

46. Guys’ fantasies are unlimited.
–Hmmm, let’s not get into this. They can think about any damn crazy thing.

 

47. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does!
– I’m laughing loud, rolling on the floor. True! True!! True!!! :-) I can actually write a full article on this statement…

 

48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!
–Hmmm, that’s true…

 

49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.
–Never tried but I still agree.

 

50. It’s not easy for a guy to let go off his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they’ve been together for over the years.
–Hmmm! Really? Interesting…

 

Men do take more time

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Recently somewhere I read that as per the research analysis it is found that men do take more time to move on or come out of a break up as compared to women. Even I do feel so. I mean hold on before you start opposing me; let me brief. I completely agree that almost every woman is very emotional & that’s how God created them but still I’ve strong feeling that guys don’t express frequently or probably they have an art of suppressing their feeling which unusually explodes when they reach the super-depression point. I mean they don’t express instantly & try to handle the situation as much as they can do independently. They take more time to get emotionally involved or attached as compared to women but once they are in, they can’t get out of it so easily. I know there have been more significant incidents on-screen & off-screen too, where you must have come across a situation when your female friend is left upset by her boyfriend but still I feel it isn’t the case always.

In case of boys, their personal as well as professional life goes side by side, we have seen several cases when after break-up boys could not get hold of their career also. For example, you must have heard about Chatan Anand, where is he now? While his counterpart, Jwala Gutta climbing the ladder of success. I really appreciate her hard work & in fact I’m a big fan of her, whatever she has achieved today, probably has nothing to do with personal life. It doesn’t really mean that she has not faced the reality but she could stand strongly & bounce back. Where is Mohd. Asif & by the way you know where is Veena Malik now a days?

Do I really need to mention anything about Kareena & Shahid?

Apart from these celebrities, I personally know couple of guys who are very close to me; could never got out of their breakups (at least till date). Even after their girlfriends got happily married or engaged, they are still killing themselves day by day. Every time they watch any sentimental movie, their facial expression says it all. Trust me this is all I’ve seen. Even after trying to console them or convince them to face reality, they could never be able to come back on track. In spite of being scholar & toppers in their schools & colleges, even after successfully climbing the corporate ladder, all of a sudden as soon as their lady luck left them alone, they shattered like, nobody could have imagined. Sometimes they even end up, destroying their professional as well as person life which was far better when they were with their lady. Now, you must be thinking then why in the first place they could not be with her for whole life? When this question was asked, answer was weird & beyond our understanding.  “I could never decide when I was with her & when she is gone, I am unable to stay without her.

By saying all this, I seriously don’t mean to say that girls can quickly get up & move on, I do agree that even girls are also equally & severely hurt, in most cases take long time to settle down but it seems they are slightly stronger than boys in this case.

Trust me, boys are also very emotional, its just that they hold it back before they destroy themselves. And of course I would like to clarify that ultimately it depends from person to person how he or she reacts to the personal affairs.

P.S. Trust me, the guy who might look tougher or the one who sounds rude, can be emotionally weak & you can’t even imagine how much he would be loving you so please keep this thing back of your mind, “Though guys are not that good in expressing their feelings, they do love you & they too miss you, it’s just that they don’t speak up

P.P.S. All the views expressed here are completely my opinions & it may differ from individual views. I’ve no intention to disrespect any gender, especially I really respect women & I know that they are very sweet & understanding, too.

What’s wrong???

Since past few days I’ve been observing something strange & unexpected going on in my life. I don’t know why but usually these days I’m getting unexpected responses(Or you can say no responses at all) from people around me. I have a good habit to take some time & pass on my good wishes on any special occasion to the concerned person, so doesn’t matter how small the occasion is. I always remember those dates & make sure to wish them. The only logic behind this behavior is that, I know it always feels nice when your cellphone beeps specially on your birthday or so on… I do it with literally no expectations, as I have been doing this since long back & obviously what can I expect from a old friend whom I’ve not seen say almost more than a decade.

But since past few months I observed that I was not getting any response from the person I just wished. Everytime I assumed that very obviously he must be busy on such a special occasion but man come on tell me do you celebrate your birthday for 15 days?? Huh!!!

Ok let me tell you one incident happened recently. Few days back,one of my engineering mate messaged me on the ORKUT after long long time. He is out of the coutry say for 1 year. I happily responded him & asked me how was going… as expected there were few messages exchanged. After say 1 month, I wished him on his birthday through ORKUT only. But till this time, I have not received any response from him. Anyways I assume he might have missed my message amongst all other birthday wishes.

Ok other incident, I wished my sister on her birthday with an early morning SMS… No Response. So I called her after say 2 hours, I found nobody was answering the call. Ok so I got the answer that she forgot her cellphone :-) But anyways I’m very sure about her that she will not overlook me, so I’m happy :-)

So in all these happenings I’m not disappointed but definitely I’m concerned as I’m asking myself “What’s wrong on my behalf? What’s making people around me behaving like this?” Probably, 2 possibilities :

1. They don’t feel like responding as they feel its just a formality
2. They might be considering that I’m so understanding that even if they don’t reply, I will assume that they are busy :-)

Anwyays whatever it may be, I’ve decided to keep a close tap on my behavior to check out if I’m behaving oddly :-) That’s the best thing I can do… :-)

Why Sometimes???

I really don’t know why sometimes I feel lonely,sad & upset. Life has already given me enough of things & there is actually nothing I should crib for. Very understanding, loving & the most wonderful parents, couple of very close friends,Yes, including very close female friends as well, a good decent job with very impressive profile, a good healthy lifestyle; what a person can expect from life more than this? Still I wonder why sometimes I start feeling extremely low, very upset & that too all of sudden.

Sometimes I feel probably because I miss my Dad who has the biggest influence on my life, or my Mom the most respected person, with Never-Give-Up attitude, but on the other hand I think I make sure that I meet them after regular interval. So then again the same question pops-up in my mind “Why sometimes I feel so sad, lonely & upset???”

Definitely, I’m NOT depressed or fed of my life but in fact I’m very happy & contained with my life, but I’m always left clueless what goes wrong sometimes suddenly & unexpectedly? Is that something happens to me only or it happens with everyone? Surprisingly it lasts just for few minutes & after that I’m again jumping back :-) Then what makes me sad for that sometime. I know probably nobody can answer this question :-(

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus!

Huh!!! Very familiar & popular topic. This is a well known fact that boys and girls are surely different in all the aspects. Even if it is the simplest issue of shopping or most critical issue of solving a problem is concerned, both have their own ways of approaching the problem. Usually we find that men try to solve a problem in more logical way while women tend to solve problems in more or less emotional way. In other words, men use brain in very straightforward result oriented approach while girls use their hearts to solve a problem & simultaneously build or maintain a very nice relationship.

No, hold on here I don’t mean girls use no brains to solve problems but I mean they more likely to be more emotional than being logical. So this one is the most basic important difference in Men & women, probably causing lots of more differences when both of them interacting with each other. Ok now let me first tell you guys that I’ll try to share my experiences or my views on how to maintain better relation but I’ve no intention to target or criticize any of them, neither girls nor boys. As being a guy, I can tell you better, how guys can communicate nicely with girls.

For example: If you talk to a woman in her language on her level on her favourite topics, do I need to tell you explicitly that you will get better results than you would if you just doing your own thing. :-) But I don’t mean that all that you should keep on discussing her favourite topics. No, not at all. But as you know women are more inclined to talk things than man would. Women prefer to resolve conflicts, discussing various aspects of situation. They just want to recollect the topic over & over until it has been completely resolved. While men tend to stay away from the discussion & move on quickly since they think discussing again on the same topic will create more problems but this can in fact cause problems between them because Men shuts down & women feels neglected.
The smart man will figure out this problem, will listen to the woman in his life. But he should not only listen, he should respond, comment, ask questions & somehow keep the conversation going until she thinks its resolved now. Now here is most critical part.

I know guys you must be thinking “boss, you expect us to listen girls all these things” Yes, I know sometime you loose your patience & that is harmful which could make the situation worst. That is why I said, don’t just listen, respond, comment & if you have some valid arguments put them in a very precise manner. This will not only satisfy her need to communicate but it will also get the issues open. This could work to your advantage also, particularly if you are in a relationship that you really care about.

So as I said men & women are different for sure but if you are watchful & pay attention to the signals she is passing, you can surely learn how to communicate with them effectively. Just try to recognise them, look them in the eye & pay attention to little clues that she will give. Talk to her & let her know that you are paying her attention. When you are at the same level of communication she is already, you will surely have her attention. And just make a note of one thing, in such situations don’t try to make fun out of her, this will create so many problems again. :-)

At least these are some things which I have noticed so far in my life & probably because of that I have quite a few very nice female friends as well. :-)

I met my best friend’s parents.

It was one of most memorable incident. So guys let me share with you something nice happened to me. This was the first time ever I was supposed to meet one of my female friend’s parents. First of all let me tell you about my friend. She is the CLOSEST female friend of mine. She is my best friend. We have been together almost for more than 6 years. On this nice Sunday evening I went her home. When I went there her Dad has gone somewhere out & was supposed to come later. So I met her Mom first. My friend has always been describing me that her Mom scolds her a lot but after meeting her I don’t believe this. Her Mom is very very sweet & she was so happy to me that I was stunned. I have never meet aunty before but she was talking to me very nicely, she offered me juice & lot more to come. Then she asked me some typical set of questions, but at all those times she was not at all sounding rude, very calm & with smiling face. Guys I honestly tell you that I was very tensed as I was getting slightly nervous to meet her Dad. Anyways after some time he came. As soon as he entered, he gave me an angry look & shook hand with me introducing with his first name in very confident firm voice. Huhhh!! I was really scared…but a moment a later he smiled. Ahhh!!! I was relieved. I must say that her Dad has great sense of humour. Probably, he just did that to scare me. Then, he was interacting with me very nicely & there was lot of professional as well as family talk but all in all it was a healthy discussion going on. Uncle was cracking some real time, crispy jokes which was making me feel relaxed at a moment.

All in all so far everything went well. In all this meantime, aunty has given me enough of things to eat & huh!!! She was continuously asking me “Why are you not eating? Why are you so slow?” :-) Actually saying, I was full already but I was just following my friend’s instructions as she has told me that her Mom doesn’t like if somebody leaves anything on the plate. :-( And later on it was the cold treat for me with 2 flavours of ice creams & guess what??? It was prepared by auntyji herself at home. I tell you guys, nobody can say that it wasn’t from a shop. It was that delicious.

And here comes the final part of the meeting which touched me & I’m never going to forget it in my whole life, that’s for sure. As soon as I said “Ok uncle, I’ll leave now” Uncle went inside & brought 2 gift packets in his hand. I was very surprised. Seriously I was not expecting this. One gift was given by himself & other one by auntyji. I was really touched. Probably you might feel what so special in this but tell me if just a guy who is friend of their daughter, does he really deserve such a nice & wonderful treatment? One step further after this all family members came out of house to send me off. Now, tell me isn’t it touching that a simple guy like me given such a nice treatment by those 2 very nice people? If they wanted they could have just give me an ordinary treatment & honestly I was not expecting beyond that. But I’m very happy as whatever happened on this nice Sunday was much beyond my expectation.

Thank you so much Uncle-Aunty for inviting me, giving me such a nice treat & making me feel very nice about myself!!! :-)

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Wish You all a very Happy Valentines day!!!

This year I heard that some political parties are going to support, Oh sorry I mean going to protect couples & encourage love birds for celebrating valentines day!!! I was just wondering why do they need support & protection from anyone? I mean if someone is just roming around with his/her friend, come on its not a crime… Ok fine, I belive & even I dont feel its correct to display love & affection in public places. Probably this is what these people are talking about. But definitely its not the case always then why to bother those people who are happy with their own lives? Why to protest against those who are celebrating valentines day? Atleast if they are not disturbing or harming anyone else or not portraying anything obscene in public places . Anyways this is not what I want to talk about or else some people might beat me ;-)

Anyways I’m not here to support here any of the either party so leaving behind these some controversial issues let’s get back to the Valentine’s day!!! So just few days back I was searching the logic behind celebrating about valentines day. I found that this day is celebrated after saint Valentine & people express their love to closed ones by wishing them, passing greetings & chocolates. Also all of you must be knowing that this day is not only for couples but it can be for friends as well. I personally believe in love & relationships. I respect those who are in a relation but provided only if its a genuine relationship. When I said “I respect those who are in a relation…” I do not only mean couples but friends also. And of course I admire those who are in serious committments. Its really a big thing.

Anyways, so all my readers a very very Happy Valentine’s day again!!!

Hidden Positives behind the negatives, how?

I know this sounds very optimistic but yes it is very much possible. Though We know life is not always smooth & everyone has ups & downs in the life but for sure after every sad day, there comes a glad day. So in fact this is good exercise to use when you want to know what is really going on behind the scene. I will put my views how we can take things positively, I’ll also mention some experiences. There is something always positive behind the negative experiences, you just need to find it.

In fact, often we misinterpret obstacles as negative experiences, I mean its just like “We are not getting What we want and when we want it.” Sometimes even worse things happen simultaneously like you loose your job, your girlfriend ditches you & all of the above your house owner asks you to vacate his house. I know probably this is one of the worst case but let me put it here the other way round. You did not loose your job but you made yourself available for the better opportunity which is right here waiting for you. Your girlfriend freed you for the other better understanding & nice partner who is waiting & you are single. :-) And most importantly your house owner did not ask you to leave his house but he told you silently “Oh my boy, now its your age to buy a house, getting married & settle down”

I know it is very difficult to imagine & implement this kind of attitude, “you will say advising is very easy but actual implementation is very difficult.” Ok agreed but as I said earlier this was the worst case I discussed just before & even if it happens, yes it is difficult, very difficult to act positively under such circumstance but definitely its not impossible. I will not say always be aggressive but I will say for sometime just sit back, stay calm & try to find out what is exactly going wrong, is it really against you or just something which is passing you message & helping you to move on in your life.

Lets talk about the current situation. Everybody is aware how hard economic recession has hit!!! Even financial experts are unable to predict how critical it can go further. Bachelors are worried about their future, while married couples are worried about their families, expenses or whatever. First thing I would like to mention here is that I’m not an expert to suggest any solution especially when experts are backing off themselves from giving any concrete advice. But only thing I would like to mention here is that its time to think practically, instead of getting depressed start studying how you can handle this situation. Again, I do understand its very easy to suggest but seriously try this you will find so many motivating things behind recession. If you can survive this situation, you might have better life in future. Start keeping track of your expenses, there is nothing you should be feeling odd about this. As you know every big organisation keeps track of its expense & maintains a balance sheet then why cant you track your own expenses. No I’m not saying stop enjoying, spend money wherever it is really required & keep track of it. Though its a tough time, stay up to the mark & lets consider that some hidden power teaching you a lesson of how to save money & live a optimal life. Its just a bad patch in life, it will surely move on.

See quickly I gave you 2 examples. I hope those will surely help you to find out hidden positives behind the negatives. And as I said “Yes, some things are difficult to implement but not impossible.”