I know, this is one of the most popular topic on the Internet and off the internet as well. People literally jump into conversation to put forward their views. (Or it would be more appropriate to call it as a fight) Sometimes directly or indirectly defending their own sides. At least, I can share my views here without any interruption until I finish…
But before I start I’m sure you must be wondering – “why the hell Rahul is writing about marriages especially when he has no experience of a marriage at all?”
Come on guys, tell me honestly, can I even dare to say anything against marriage, after getting married? – No; So this is the time..
Let’s start with comparing the differences rather than comparing the benefits. As far as my understanding is concerned, I believe the most significant difference would be the premarital time. In any love marriage, you get more time before marriage and with no strings attached so probably you feel you are not obligated. You have a free will to understand your partner & move on if things don’t work out. However, in most of the love marriages people don’t even start with the objective of getting married ; they become good friends & they find each other so compatible that they actually end up marrying each other.
Now consider the arranged marriage – obviously, the objective is clearly defined here even before you meet each other personally. And then you start matching those missing blocks to find the right match. The best part is; your family knows what you are doing so you don’t have to wait to talk on the phone untill everybody sleeps in the night (Now, you may count that as a benefit, short term though…) And you can proudly announce your dating schedule in front of your whole family with no counter-questions what-so-ever.
Anyways, as I mentioned above, does that extra premarital time really make any difference? I mean I’ve friends falling into both these categories with mixed opinions, Read few of these comments –
- “In love marriage, you know your partner well before so there is nothing left to explore after marriage”
– “In arranged marriages, you get to see true colors of your partner only after marriage (really? Come on guys, you can’t be so pessimistic, you can say at least some good things about marriage)”
and so on & on & on…
Ok but to conclude in short, here is my 2 cents – It’s probably not about the way you get married, it’s about the mutual understanding and the patience (yes the patience to get along with those mood swings, the patience you need to cope up with the cricket match until it ends or the patience you need to choose blue curtains for your bedroom )
Basically, it is just the compatibility & not the way of getting married.
P.S. Please note, this article was written in order to highlight the differences between various types of Indian marriages & its completely for fun with no intention to provide any counselling advise what-so-ever. So please consider your partner selection decisions at your own risk.
P.P.S. And yes, one more thing, stop predicting my status based on the article above, I bet you going to get it wrong, so wait till I reveal it