Will you be my valentine?

So guys all set for celebrations? I’m pretty sure,very few people will end up reading this article today & I won’t be surprised if You are super-busy today ;-) Anyways that’s good. So I will start this post on the note of wishing all of you & your respective partners a very Happy Valentine’s Day!

By the way, do you know, why do we celebrate this day? 90% of people will plainly answer it as in the memories of St. Valentine & his martyrdom but do you know what is the actual story? How many of you know that St. Valentine was believed to be secretly married to many young lovers?

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Aha,that’s interesting!!! See now I can sense some raised eyebrows… Most of the Indians will find it pretty identical to what happened in Mahabharata, when Lord Krishna married 16000 DASIs because of the edict. So in both the cases marriage was taken principally as an institution & a selfless act. And to me, that is the real message of the Valentine’s day.

Anyways that was the core concept which is the history now but lets see what is happening today. Read the script below :

There was this young guy who walked into a gift shop (Guy was single so there is no question of buying a gift :-)) but he just thought let see what all gifts are available so that he could prepare himself to gift something someday to his wife… As soon as he entered, an attendant greeted him politely with pretty clear intentions :-p, So here is what happened –

Shopkeeper – Good Evening Sir! How may I help you?
Guy - Show me some gifts so that I can choose something unique.
Shopkeeper – Sure Sir! Valentine gift, right?
Guy - (*remained silent*)
Shopkeeper – So how is your girlfriend?
Guy - She is fine! (WTF! what kind of question was that? Guy was bit furious, regretted for answering this)
Shopkeeper – *Grin!* No sir, I mean what type of person she is? Does she like gadgets, perfumes or anything specific?
    (Now, this is called as embarrassment.)
Guy - (*Embarrassed*) Show me whatever you have! I will choose myself.

I know guys, you would be more interested to know what happened later but that is out of context for this article so I won’t include it here. So, the point to note here is that, people are now more materialistic than the actual feeling behind celebrating this day. Tell me, how many of you actually take a day off to spend some quality time with your spouse? In some countries, it is an official holiday. I’m not against gifting your spouse/loved ones but more emphasis should be on spending good time with him/ her. So to conclude it in simple words –

Girls - Take some time & make him feel special, he really cares for you although you don’t realise it most of the time. He tries his best to keep you happy so certainly he deserves a nice treatment today. And when I say nice treatment, it is purely subjective & depends on his perception :-) Basically make him feel happy & lucky to have you in his life.

Guys - Its fairly simple for you, Buy her an expensive gift as much as your budget allows (Sorry but no excuses here), take her out for a dinner & make her feel special & unique. I would like to emphasize the word ‘unique’. And see how it works for you. The time you spend with her is the key. Be genuinely with her & listen to her :-) In fact I would say, you don’t need to wait for Valentine’s day to express your feelings. Just 30 seconds, are enough, I mean a genuine hug will convey your feelings to her & believe me she will understand it.

So finally once again, wish you all a very happy valentine’s day! Have a great time…

P.S. Stop visualizing me as the guy in the shop above. All the characters in the script are fictitious & any close resemblance to the real life is just a coincidence, you know that, right? ;-)

P.P.S. Scroll slightly up & read the conclusion in the last few lines again. Because I truly mean it.

Stressful Life, Why?

It was an extremely cold morning & I was out for morning walk with Dad. Since I was back home on leave for 5 days, it was our usual routine to get up early, go for morning walk & have a cup of tea from the beach-side hotel. Weather was awesomely pleasant. While we were walking, I noticed a cute little kid, with long hair tied up as a pony tail walking with his Dad holding Dad’s finger. He must be around 3-4 years old, trying to walk little faster to match up with his Dad’s speed. His Dad was visibly a poor man, I guess a building construction labour. Kid was seemingly happy & laughing loudly enough that I could hear him on the other side of the road, probably because his Dad was telling him some funny story. I was wondering what that small kid was trying to tell his father :-)

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Another incident  reported by one of my friend. He was in his hometown for Diwali. As you know in India, Diwali is the season for shopping, my friend was also out for shopping.He saw a guy returning back home, riding on his bicycle. And guess what? His entire family, his son, wife & himself riding on the same bicycle. Enjoying their ride, they must have finished their Diwali shopping & returning back home.

Now from both these incidents I noticed that these people definitely do not have lavishing lifestyles but still they were visibly happy & contained with their lives. On the other hand I meet so many people around me; they actually do not have any reason to be tensed or depressed. They have a secure job, earning enough money to afford their lavishing lifestyle. I mean, don’t take me wrong, I’m not only considering monetary aspects but these people are really depressed for nothing. Think about those people who can’t even afford meals for 2 times a day but still they manage to smile. Even worse, I’ve noticed a pathetic & irritating trend of running behind money endlessly. It is so damn irritating when people keep discussing about money all the time. I’m not saying they are wrong, I understand financial stability is important factor but people are getting obsessed with it. Or may be its just my personal experience that I’m meeting up these sort of people quite frequently… Even I confess, sometimes I feel stressed but now over the period of time, I learnt certain ways to cheer up myself & get back to life.

Then I wonder, why these people so stressed all the time? Do you think perception is the problem? or negative mind-set is the root cause here???

Men do take more time

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Recently somewhere I read that as per the research analysis it is found that men do take more time to move on or come out of a break up as compared to women. Even I do feel so. I mean hold on before you start opposing me; let me brief. I completely agree that almost every woman is very emotional & that’s how God created them but still I’ve strong feeling that guys don’t express frequently or probably they have an art of suppressing their feeling which unusually explodes when they reach the super-depression point. I mean they don’t express instantly & try to handle the situation as much as they can do independently. They take more time to get emotionally involved or attached as compared to women but once they are in, they can’t get out of it so easily. I know there have been more significant incidents on-screen & off-screen too, where you must have come across a situation when your female friend is left upset by her boyfriend but still I feel it isn’t the case always.

In case of boys, their personal as well as professional life goes side by side, we have seen several cases when after break-up boys could not get hold of their career also. For example, you must have heard about Chatan Anand, where is he now? While his counterpart, Jwala Gutta climbing the ladder of success. I really appreciate her hard work & in fact I’m a big fan of her, whatever she has achieved today, probably has nothing to do with personal life. It doesn’t really mean that she has not faced the reality but she could stand strongly & bounce back. Where is Mohd. Asif & by the way you know where is Veena Malik now a days?

Do I really need to mention anything about Kareena & Shahid?

Apart from these celebrities, I personally know couple of guys who are very close to me; could never got out of their breakups (at least till date). Even after their girlfriends got happily married or engaged, they are still killing themselves day by day. Every time they watch any sentimental movie, their facial expression says it all. Trust me this is all I’ve seen. Even after trying to console them or convince them to face reality, they could never be able to come back on track. In spite of being scholar & toppers in their schools & colleges, even after successfully climbing the corporate ladder, all of a sudden as soon as their lady luck left them alone, they shattered like, nobody could have imagined. Sometimes they even end up, destroying their professional as well as person life which was far better when they were with their lady. Now, you must be thinking then why in the first place they could not be with her for whole life? When this question was asked, answer was weird & beyond our understanding.  “I could never decide when I was with her & when she is gone, I am unable to stay without her.

By saying all this, I seriously don’t mean to say that girls can quickly get up & move on, I do agree that even girls are also equally & severely hurt, in most cases take long time to settle down but it seems they are slightly stronger than boys in this case.

Trust me, boys are also very emotional, its just that they hold it back before they destroy themselves. And of course I would like to clarify that ultimately it depends from person to person how he or she reacts to the personal affairs.

P.S. Trust me, the guy who might look tougher or the one who sounds rude, can be emotionally weak & you can’t even imagine how much he would be loving you so please keep this thing back of your mind, “Though guys are not that good in expressing their feelings, they do love you & they too miss you, it’s just that they don’t speak up

P.P.S. All the views expressed here are completely my opinions & it may differ from individual views. I’ve no intention to disrespect any gender, especially I really respect women & I know that they are very sweet & understanding, too.

Her Diary Vs. His Diary!!!

HER DIARY

Day night, I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a cafe to have some coffee. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment. Conversation wasn’t flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk, he agreed but he kept quiet and absent. I asked him what was wrong – he said, “Nothing.” I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry. On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving. I can’t explain his behavior; I don’t know why he didn’t say, “I love u,too.” When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there and watched TV; he seemed distant and absent.Finally I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed. I decided that I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep.I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

HIS DIARY

Today India lost the cricket match against Bangladesh. DAMN IT!!! :-)
Now that’s called Simplicity of Men Vs Complexity of Women !!! ;-)

Love & Life

I’m not sure who is the original author but I thought I should share this with you.This story tells us something about LOVE & LIFE…. Here it goes…

“My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders. Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness. I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE. One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce. “Why? ” he asked, shocked. “I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him? And finally he asked me: “What can I do to change your mind?” Somebody said it right… It’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: “Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind. Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?” He said: ” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response. I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes….

My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but…. please allow me to explain the reasons further….. This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading. “When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand…and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die … ” My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting. .. And as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk…”

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread….Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

That’s LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness. Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form … Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… AND THAT’S LIFE P/s: this is not my experience but it truly happens.

Lets get the moral of this story. Most of the time we do not appreciate people around us, they may not good in expressing their feelings but it doesn’t mean that they don’t love u. If they aren’t good at expressing love, then why don’t we take the first step to show some love???”