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There are certain things in life which are unexpected & definitely surprising too. If you’ve checked Thoughts section on my site, you’ll find one pretty similar article which I drafted almost 3 years back.Sometimes these surprises are pleasent but sometimes, very confusing & we start searching for the reason , why it must have happened? Ya ya I know I know thinking too much is not good for your health, atleast not good for your mental health, but thinking sometimes is just so spontaneous that you have no hold at all.

I’ll tell you a story about a boy & a girl. No no dont worry I’m not going to tell you damn old typical so called lovestory, in fact its a very practical day-to-day life simple story. How things get bad unexpectedly & how confusion takes over? Ok, let’s get back to the point, a boy & a girl who used to be friends as you must have guessed by this time now (Really, were they? sorry guys but I’m not sure whether they were friends or not? …. Anyways lets not get into that now) But, all I can say is that they used to enjoy talking to each other atleast when it comes to pulling legs of others or commenting on how funny people behave in our day to day life, both used to laugh together & talk a lot about such funny creatures. In fact, girl had a habit of laughing so loudly that sometime even guy had to remind her about their presence in public places. so in short actually it was a good healthy relationship amongst them.

One day as usual they were discussing something funny & in that trans, girl passed some comment on this guy which somehow put this guy on the toes. He felt that why was that comment passed on him but still he did not react. He was upset but he could not figure out what was the logic behind that comment. Sorry guys but I’m not aware of the comment which girl passed on so almost for next 2-3 days guy did not talk to girl & but finally after few days guy told girl about this stuff & thing he was upset about. Girl who was not sure how to explain that it was purely unintentional comment but still she told this fellow that, she did not mean to hurt him, also guy confessed that he wasn’t hurt but slightly upset with the unexpected comment. So issue was over by that time, was that really?

No, it was not. Next day onwards, they never talked with each other, like they used to, they never laughed together & interaction between them became absolutely formal.

Now, if I start thinking about the misunderstanding which actually led to complications, I’m confused. Ok lets consider if it was the girl who made a upsetting comment on the guy then she has already explained that it was purely unintentional so guy should not have mind it as that was a part of fun but then if it was a guy who mistakenly took this comment personally then he has also confessed that he did not take it seriously but its just that made him upset with the unexpected comment. Now, the question is who’s fault was that which actually spoilt a nice healthy friendship?

Ya I know guys by this time, you are also confused. You must be thinking, What message exactly I’m trying to convey when I’m narrating this piece of story. All I want to say is that sometimes some unexpected things can spoil some nice relations. so I will say “Dont think much”, definitely thinking moderately is accepted but make sure it doesn’t complicate the problem. Take the life the way it comes & live life every moment…

I know I’m pretty late on this but I really wanted to post here something about the King of Pop & that’s MJ. I felt it’s very unfortunate when I heard this on friday morning! In actual sense, I’m not someone who is following or really crazy about MJ in day-to-day life but I’m the someone who used to admire him, just enjoy his few of the bestselling tracks. To me, he was the real performer. I don’t know why even he is no more with us; people are mentioning about certain controversies he was goofed up with, although he was left out of those issues due to the lack of evidences. Recently, I heard he was going to do a comeback concert in London which was most discussed. But behind the screen the fact is MJ was actually very tensed about his fitness still he wanted to work really hard & push himself through(Atleast that’s what I’ve heard). Even it has been speculated that just to keep himself enregised & fit, he was on medicines which utlimately caused the overdose. so I personally felt “It was really very unfortunate….”

So may be this post is nothing but simply my way to pay to tribute to this legend called MJ.

Hats off to MJ!!! You will be always remembered especially for your smoothest moonwalk step I’ve seen ever & off course my all time favorite tracks “Black or White” and “They don’t really care about us“

Since past few days I’ve been observing something strange & unexpected going on in my life. I don’t know why but usually these days I’m getting unexpected responses(Or you can say no responses at all) from people around me. I have a good habit to take some time & pass on my good wishes on any special occasion to the concerned person, so doesn’t matter how small the occasion is. I always remember those dates & make sure to wish them. The only logic behind this behavior is that, I know it always feels nice when your cellphone beeps specially on your birthday or so on… I do it with literally no expectations, as I have been doing this since long back & obviously what can I expect from a old friend whom I’ve not seen say almost more than a decade.

But since past few months I observed that I was  not getting any response from the person I just wished. Everytime I assumed that very obviously he must be busy on such a special occasion but man come on tell me do you celebrate your birthday for 15 days?? Huh!!!

Ok let me tell you one incident happened recently. Few days back,one of my engineering mate messaged me on the ORKUT after long long time. He is out of the coutry say for 1 year. I happily responded him & asked me how was going… as expected there were few messages exchanged. After say 1 month, I wished him on his birthday through ORKUT only. But till this time, I have not received any response from him. Anyways I assume he might have missed my message amongst all other birthday wishes.

Ok other incident, I wished my sister on her birthday with an early morning SMS… No Response. So I called her after say 2 hours, I found nobody was answering the call. Ok so I got the answer that she forgot her cellphone But anyways I’m very sure about her that she will not overlook me, so I’m happy

So in all these happenings I’m not disappointed but definitely I’m concerned as I’m asking myself “What’s wrong on my behalf? What’s making people around me behaving like this?” Probably, 2 possibilities :

1. They don’t feel like responding as they feel its just a formality
2. They might be considering that I’m so understanding that even if they don’t reply, I will assume that they are busy

Anwyays whatever it may be, I’ve decided to keep a close tap on my behavior to check out if I’m behaving oddly That’s the best thing I can do…

My ORKUT

I really don’t know why sometimes I feel lonely,sad & upset. Life has already given me enough of things & there is actually nothing I should crib for. Very understanding, loving &  the most wonderful parents, couple of very close friends,Yes, including very close female friends as well, a good decent job with  very impressive profile, a good healthy lifestyle; what a person can expect from life more than this? Still I wonder why sometimes I start feeling extremely low, very upset & that too all of sudden.

Sometimes I feel probably because I miss my Dad who has the biggest influence on my life, or my Mom the most respected person, with Never-Give-Up attitude, but on the other hand I think I make sure that I meet them after regular interval. So then again the same question pops-up in my mind “Why sometimes I feel so sad, lonely & upset???”

Definitely, I’m NOT depressed or fed of my life but in fact I’m very happy & contained with my life, but I’m always left clueless what goes wrong sometimes suddenly & unexpectedly? Is that something happens to me only or it happens with everyone? Surprisingly it lasts just for few minutes & after that I’m again jumping back Then what makes me sad for that sometime. I know probably nobody can answer this question

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window. 

Father asked his Son, “What’s this?”

Son replied “It’s a crow”.

After a few minutes, Father asked his Son the 2nd time, “What’s this?” The Son said “Dad, I’ve jst now told you “It’s a crow”. After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, What is this?” At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son’s tone when he said 2 his Father with a rebuff. “It’s a crow, a crow”. A little after, the Father again asked his Son 4th time, “What is this?” This time the Son shouted at his Father, “Why do u keep asking me the same question again & again, although I’ve told u so many times ‘IT IS A CROW’; are u not able 2 understand this?”

A little later the Father went 2 his room & came back with an old tattered diary which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son 2 read tht page.When d son read it, the following words were written in the diary :

“Today my little son aged 3 was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was & I replied 2 him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again & again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child.”

While the little child asked him 23 times “What is this?”, the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times & when today Father asked his Son the same question just four times, the Son felt irritated & annoyed. So, If ur parents attain old age do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak 2 them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble & kind to them. Be considerate to your parents.

From today say this aloud, “I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child.(I mean it guys!!!) They hav always showered their selfless love on me. They crossed all mountains & valleys without seeing the storm & heat to make me a person presentable in the society today”.

Say a prayer to god, “I will serve my old parents in the best way. I will say all good & kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.”

Guys, in my personal opinion, I believe it does not matter how successful person I would be, I’m very much aware that Whatever I’m today, that’s absolutely because of my Father & my Mother!!! I love you Mom-Dad!!!

A saint asked his disciples, ‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’

‘But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?’ asked the saint. ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint. Finally he explained, ‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’

Then the saint asked, ‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each
other.’

MORAL : When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.

I hope guys all of you will agree on this. This was sent to me by a friend today & I totally agree on this.

It was one of most memorable incident.So guys let me share with you something nice happened to me. This was the first time ever I was supposed to meet one of my female friend’s parents. First of all let me tell you about my friend. She is the CLOSEST female friend of mine. Yes, I do have few female friends but she is my best friend. We have been together almost for more than 5 years. On this nice sunday evening I went her home. When I went there her Dad has gone somewhere out & was supposed to come later. So I met her Mom first. My friend has always been describing me that her Mom scolds her a lot but after meeting her I don’t belive this. Her Mom is very very sweet & she was soooooooooooo nice to me that I was stunned. I have never meet aunty before but she was talking to me very nicely, she offered me juice & lot more to come. Then she asked me some typical set of questions, but at all those times she was not at all sounding rude, very calm & with smiling face.Guys I honestly tell you that I was very tensed as I was getting slightly nervous to meet her Dad. Anyways after some time he came. As soon as he entered, he gave me an angry look & shook hand with me introducing with his first name in very confident firm voice. Huhhh!! I was really scared…but a moment a later he smiled. Ahhh!!! I was relieved. I must say that her Dad has great sense of humour.Probably,he just did that to scare me. Then, he was interacting with me very nicely & there was lot of professional as well as family talk but all in all it was a healthy discussion going on. Uncle was cracking some real time, crispy jokes which was making me feel relaxed at a moment.

All in all so far everything went well. In all this meantime, aunty has given me enough of things to eat & huh!!! She was continuously asking me “Why are you not eating? Why are you so slow?” Acually saying, I was full already but I was just following my friend’s instructions as she has told me that her Mom doesnt like if somebody leaves anything on the plate. And later on it was the cold treat for me with 2 flavours of ice creams & guess what??? It was prepared by auntyji herself at home. I tell you guys, nobody can say that it wasn’t from a shop. It was that delicious.

And here comes the final part of the meeting which touched me & I’m never going to forget it in my whole life, that’s for sure. As soon as I said “Ok uncle, I’ll leave now” Uncle went inside & brought 2 gift packets in his hand. I was very surprised. Seriously I was not expecting this. One gift was given by himself & other one by auntyji. I was really touched. Probably you might feel what so special in this but tell me if just a guy who is friend of their daughter, does he really deserve such a nice & wonderful treatment? One step further after this all family members came out of house to send me off. Now, tell me isn’t it touching that a simple guy like me given such a nice treatment by those 2 very nice people? If they wanted they could have just give me an ordinary treatment & honestly I was not expecting beyond that. But I’m very happy as whatever happened on this nice sunday was much much much beyond my expectation.

Thank you so much Uncle-Aunty for inviting me, giving me such a nice treat & making me feel very nice about myself!!!

I’m not sure who is the original author but I thought I should share this with you.This story tells us something about LOVE & LIFE…. Here it goes…

My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders. Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness. I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE. One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce. “Why? ” he asked, shocked. “I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him? And finally he asked me: “What can I do to change your mind?” Somebody said it right… It’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: “Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind. Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?” He said: ” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response. I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes….

My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but…. please allow me to explain the reasons further….. This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading. “When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy. You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand…and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die … ” My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting. .. And as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk…”

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread….Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

That’s LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness. Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form … Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… AND THAT’S LIFE P/s: this is not my experience but it truly happens.

Lets get the moral of this story. Most of the time we do not appreciate people around us, they may not good in expressing their feelings but it doesn’t mean that they don’t love u. If they aren’t good at expressing love, then why don’t we take the first step to show some love???